one of the things that surprised me most, becoming a mum (or watching other ladies become mums), is that mums seemed to judge/be judged a lot more than i expected. i always thought that as a mum, i would judge less because it was a virtue i'd like to pass down to my children. i have also been very fortunate in meeting angels who affirm the things i am doing as a mum, and i honestly rarely get questioned or judged. like when we were at the polyclinic for master L's immunisation jab at 4 months and i was changing his diaper in the ladies room. after looking on for a bit, an elderly lady approached me and asked if we were alone and whether i would be taking care of him all on my own.  she was so kind and told me horror stories about domestic helpers, concluding that it would be best for me to take care of my baby myself. but it doesn't seem to be the case for everyone else.  i constantly see a couple of acquaintances who are new mothers and mums in various facebook grou...